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There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we
feel. For fear of embarrassing the other person, or yourselves, we hesitate
to say the actual words "I love you." So we try to communicate the idea in
other words.

We say 'take care' or 'don't drive too fast' or be good.' But really, these
are just other ways of saying 'I love you,' 'you are important to me,' 'I
care what happens to you,' 'I don't want you to get hurt.'

We are sometimes very strange people. The only thing we want to say, and
the one thing that we should say, is the one thing we don't say. And yet,
because the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we are
driven to use other words and signs to say what we really mean. And many
times the meaning never gets communicated at all and
the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted.

Therefore, we have to LISTEN FOR LOVE in the words that people are saying
to us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more often, the
manner of saying things is even more important. A joyous insult carries
more affection and love within the sentiments which are expressed
insincerely.

An impulsive hug says I LOVE YOU even though the words might be saying very
different.
Any expression of a person's concern for another says I love you. Sometimes
the expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel.

Sometimes we must look and listen very intently for the love that contains.
But it is often there, beneath the surface.

A mother may nag her son constantly about his grades or cleaning his room.
The son may hear only the nagging, but if he listens carefully, he will
hear the love underneath the nagging. His mother wants him to do well, to
be successful. Her concern and love for her son unfortunately emerge in her
nagging. But it is love all the same.

A daughter comes home late, way past her curfew, and her father confronts
her with angry words. The daughter may hear only the anger, but if she
listens carefully, she will hear the love under the anger. "I was worried
about you," the father is saying. 'Because I care about you and I love
you. You are important to me.

We say I love you in many ways- with birthday gifts, and little notes, with
smiles and sometimes with tears. Sometimes we show our love by just keeping
quiet and not saying a word, at other times by speaking out, even
brusquely.

We show our love sometimes by impulsiveness. Many times we have to show
our love by forgiving someone who has not listened to the love we have
tried to express. The problem is listening for love is that we don't always
understand the language of love which the other person is using.

A girl may use tears or emotions to say what she wants to say, and her
boyfriend may not understand her because he expects her to be talking his
language. Thus, we have to force ourselves to really listen for love.

The problem with our world is that people rarely listen to each other. They
hear the words, but they don't listen to the actions that accompany the
words or the expression on the face. Or people listen only for rejection or
misunderstanding. They do not see the love that is there just beneath the
surface, even if the words are angry.

We have to listen for love in those around us. If we listen intently we
will discover that we are a lot more loved than we realize.

Listen for love and we will find that the world is a very loving place
after all.
LOVE is
a happy thing.
It makes us laugh.
It makes us sing.
It makes us sad.
It makes us cry.
It makes us seek the reason

Why?
It makes us take.
It makes us give.
Above all else it makes us
LIVE.

It is not the presence or absence of people that makes the difference
because a person need not be lonely even if he is alone. Sometimes it is
good to be alone. But that does not make us lonely. It is not a matter of
being present WITH someone. It is a matter of being present TO someone.

So remember...

If you love someone, tell them. Remember always to say what you mean. Never
be afraid to express yourself. Take this opportunity to tell someone what
they mean to you. Seize the day and have no regrets.

Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have
helped make you the person that you are today and are what it's all about
anyway.